You might have judged many whether
they are an introvert or an extrovert. Some people, it is an easy answer,
but for most, it is difficult to choose one way or the other. It is hard to
choose because the introvert/ extrovert separation echoes a tired and obsolete
view of character. Character traits exist along a range, and the vast majority
of us are not introverts or extroverts; we fall somewhere in the middle.
Character consists of a steady
set of preferences and tendencies through which we approach the world. Character
traits are form at an early age and fixed by early adulthood. Many things change
over the course of lifetime, but your character is not one of them. The character
between introvert and extrovert captures one of the most important character
traits. We are forced to categorize ourselves, either way because there are
critical strengths and weaknesses commonly associated personalities
Approximately two-thirds of
people do not strongly identify as introverts or extroverts. These people are Ambiverts,
who have both introverted and extroverted affinities. The direction Ambiverts
lean toward varies greatly, depending on the situation. Ambiverts have a distinctive
advantage over true introverts and extroverts. Because their character does not
lean in either direction, they have easier time adjusting their tactic to
people based on the situation. This permits them to connect more easily, and
more deeply, with a wider variety of people.
How it Works in
the Brain
How social you are; is driven by the brain’s feel-good
hormone. We all have different levels of dopamine-fueled stimulation in the brain.
Those who naturally have high levels of stimulus tend to be introverts; they
try to avoid any extra social stimulation that might make them feel anxious or
overwhelmed. Those with low levels of stimulation tend to be extroverts. Most
people’s levels of natural stimulation do not reach great extremes, though it
does fluctuate
Finding Out
Whether You’re An Ambivert (Courtesy: internet)
It is important to find out where
you fall in the introversion/extroversion scale. By increasing your awareness
of your type, you can develop a better sense of your inclinations and play to
your strengths. How many of the following statements apply to you. If most of
them apply, you are most likely an ambivert.
- I can perform tasks alone or in a group. I do not have much inclination either way
- Comfortable with social settings, but I get exhaust of being around people too much.
- Being the center of attention is fun for me, but not like it to last.
- Some people think I am quiet, while others think I am highly social.
- I do not always need to be moving, but too much down time leaves me feeling bored.
- I can get lost in my own thoughts just as easily as I can lose myself in a conversation.
- Comfortable with small talks, but it does get boring.
- When it comeson trusting other people, sometimes skeptical ,othertimes, I dive right in
- If I spend too much time alone, I get bored, yet too much time around other people leaves me feeling exhausted.
The trick to being an ambivert is
knowing when to lean toward one side of the range when it is not happening
naturally. Ambiverts with low self-awareness struggle with this. Mismatching
your approach to the situation can be frustrating, ineffective, and
demoralizing for Ambiverts.
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