Detect Arrogant People And Manage them

Do you always seem to cross paths with people who are stuck on themselves, intolerant of people different from them, rude or downright arrogant? These people can be a great source of potential pain, and this article is here to help you sort the arrogant from the not-so-arrogant

Pay attention to their conversations. Don't snoop, but when they're talking to you or to those around you, listen to them. Is it always about them? Do they get mad or irritated if the center of attention moves to someone else? These are good signs of arrogance.

Arrogance and haughtiness is often a reflection of limited life experience, and feeling concerned that those with greater life experience "have got something over them." Rather than seeking to find out more through questions and learning, arrogant people tend to simplify from their limited, narrow life experiences and try to impose their small worldview on others.

Jealousy of your accomplishments or seeming lifestyle can cause another person to feel smug or arrogant about something they think they do better than you do or own/have that you do not.

Arrogant people have an extremely strong need to look good. When you make them look bad - even if it is the slightest offense - they will usually be very mad at you. This happens when you question their look, intelligence, physical abilities, or anything else relating to their self-perception.

Challenge their worldview.Do not be aggressive––just distrustful and curious. If they get upset, gauge their anger. If it is minimal, they may be simply having a bad day. However, if they are enraged, then they may see you as questioning their "perfect little world." In addition, having one of those is usually indicative of arrogance. At some point or another, most people realize that the world does not revolve around them. Arrogant people respond this by creating an atmosphere that revolves around them, and get angry if they are reminded of the real world.

Ambiguity terrifies arrogant people because it suggests inadequacy, change, and lack of certainty. As such, instead of accepting that the world behaves randomly and at times very averse to one's likings, the arrogant person seeks to control everything and everyone, which of course, is an impossible mission.

Reality hurts when it intrudes; as such, an arrogant person is less likely than other people to self-reflect or analyze, thereby not seeing their own imperfections. They may also give themselves undue credit for positive feats instead of admitting the input of others or of situations

Learn the quality of their friendships. Do not be nosy or gossipy, but if they are happy with someone one day and hateful with them the next, that is a sign of them having many fair-weather friends. That is a sign of egotism, since it is very hard to be a truly good friend to someone who is stuck on themselves. Prideful people have a strong need to look good, and being self-sufficient is an effective way to do that. Since being a good friend to someone usually means helping him or her, they often cannot stand the thought of a good friendship. Ironically, arrogant people often cannot understand why they do not have any dependable and kind friends.

How do they treat those not like themselves? In other words, how do they treat those with different beliefs, cultural backgrounds, and ways of seeing the world? If it is naturally negative, then they are either over-zealous, ignorant of other people, or what to avoid those that challenge their fantasyland that caters to them and them only. Determine this based on their general personality and the people they are interacting with. Many times, prideful people have a serious "my-way's-the-only-way" attitude. This is simply a defensive mechanism for their false image or their fantasyland.

What is their personality like? Take note of how they act, talk, and use their social status. Do they have a general sense of "coolness"? Are they a gabber? Do they act like they own the place, or act like the "big dog"? Are they very keen on their self-image? •Many arrogant people have a false charm that no one seems to see through. However, the arrogant person is usually more than happy to show their cruel side to those that they don't like.

When they are cruel, their friends will usually ignore it or not do anything to stop it since they are afraid that they'll be treated badly by their "friend."

Mention people you know that they do not like. This is not meant to begin a conflict, but to gauge their conflicts, frustrations, and hatreds. If their criticism seems to be reasonable, they probably are not hubristic. If it's harsh, they are. For the most part, arrogant people see people that they do not like as threats to their perfect little world. The more they hate someone, the more dangerous that person is to their fantasyland. And in turn, the bigger the threat, the tougher the criticism.

Ask around to see what they have been saying about you. If they have been saying bad things about you, they may simply not like you. If they are nice to your face, but talk bad about you behind your back like it's their favorite hobby, then they probably have a problem with pride. Arrogant people often subconsciously know that they do not have any good friends. They recompense for this by creating the "impression" that they have many friends - they have a "quantity, not quality" mentality. Then they simply insult their trophy friends when they are not looking.

Be compassionate. Do not be critical of arrogant people or you risk having as negative an outlook as they do. Arrogant people are often trying to hide certain weaknesses and fears. Most of the time, the need for a strong and undisputable self-image comes out of deeply rooted pain. Obviously, you also don't need to be taken in by their claims to be bigger over you. Stay upright and detached. However, you can reach out and see the genuine good in them and praise what is real, rather than apparent or forced, talent. Sometimes, having someone push through the abruptness can free the arrogant person to be much truer to themselves, allowing them to stop shielding themselves so fiercely.

An enormous amount of weakness tends to hide behind arrogance. This leads to overcompensating, so that the weakness is deeply repressed. For example, if an arrogant person grew up poor but later becomes rich, he or she may be arrogant about everything they can now afford because they are covering up the fear of poverty from the past...